THE COMPASSION CLUB
THE INNER VOICE OF SELF-COMPASSION
Cause I’m a black belt when I’m beating up on myself
But I’m an expert at giving love to somebody else.
Do these lyrics to Demi Lovato’s song I love me sound familiar?
Often times it is really easy for us to be kind and compassionate and loving to other people but when it comes to treating ourselves with the same compassion and love, we tend to not be so freely giving with our kindness. The Inner Voice of Self-Compassion is what we need to focus on.
Think about your closest friend. When you notice they are sad or having an off day, what do you do? You ask them What’s wrong? If you know they are struggling with something hard that is going on in their lives, you check in with them and ask
How are you doing? We listen to our friends, remind them of how awesome, strong and beautiful they are. We are so good at this because we love our friends and we want them to be happy.
When was the last time you said to yourself:
What’s wrong?
How are you doing?
Tell me what happened….
AND really listened to your answer?
When we are self-compassionate, we treat ourselves like a best friend. We are forgiving, loving, and reassuring about how incredible and wonderful we are.
How do you talk to yourself when you are having a bad day?
How do you talk to yourself when you make a mistake?
The opposite of self-compassion sounds like:
It’s my fault.
I am the worst.
Nobody wants to be my friend.
I am unwanted.
I can’t fix this.
I can’t ever make a mistake.
I always say the wrong thing.
When we are not self-compassionate and beat ourselves up we are basically telling ourselves that the only acceptable version of ourselves is the perfect version.
The perfect version of yourself does not exist! Nor does the perfect version exist for any human being on the planet.
We are all human. We all struggle. We all mess up and make mistakes. We say the wrong thing.
We rarely get it right. So, why not encourage and love ourselves for the efforts we do make and celebrate our own wins?
You get to decide how you treat yourself in your human journey. Whatever seed you plant, that is the seed that will grow inside of you. What do you want to grow? Self-compassion or self-rejection?
You get to choose.
But I’m an expert at giving love to somebody else.
Do these lyrics to Demi Lovato’s song I love me sound familiar?
Often times it is really easy for us to be kind and compassionate and loving to other people but when it comes to treating ourselves with the same compassion and love, we tend to not be so freely giving with our kindness. The Inner Voice of Self-Compassion is what we need to focus on.
Think about your closest friend. When you notice they are sad or having an off day, what do you do? You ask them What’s wrong? If you know they are struggling with something hard that is going on in their lives, you check in with them and ask
How are you doing? We listen to our friends, remind them of how awesome, strong and beautiful they are. We are so good at this because we love our friends and we want them to be happy.
When was the last time you said to yourself:
What’s wrong?
How are you doing?
Tell me what happened….
AND really listened to your answer?
When we are self-compassionate, we treat ourselves like a best friend. We are forgiving, loving, and reassuring about how incredible and wonderful we are.
How do you talk to yourself when you are having a bad day?
How do you talk to yourself when you make a mistake?
The opposite of self-compassion sounds like:
It’s my fault.
I am the worst.
Nobody wants to be my friend.
I am unwanted.
I can’t fix this.
I can’t ever make a mistake.
I always say the wrong thing.
When we are not self-compassionate and beat ourselves up we are basically telling ourselves that the only acceptable version of ourselves is the perfect version.
The perfect version of yourself does not exist! Nor does the perfect version exist for any human being on the planet.
We are all human. We all struggle. We all mess up and make mistakes. We say the wrong thing.
We rarely get it right. So, why not encourage and love ourselves for the efforts we do make and celebrate our own wins?
You get to decide how you treat yourself in your human journey. Whatever seed you plant, that is the seed that will grow inside of you. What do you want to grow? Self-compassion or self-rejection?
You get to choose.
You get to choose.
Sami halvorsen - The Inner Voice of Self-Compassion
Sami works with teen girls to overcome anxiety and build self-confidence in her coaching programs, and is the host of The Teen Life Coach Podcast. Her mission is to teach teenage girls how to be self confident and live a life with less anxiety so that they can enjoy their teen years, and reach their full potential. She is a strong supporter and advocate of teen mental health and loves working with teens.
Website- KnowingUP.com
Podcast- The teen life coach
The perfect version of yourself does not exist!